When it comes to walking someone through experiences of shame, humiliation, or stories of contempt, it’s essential to focus on three key elements: attunement, containment, and rupture and repair. These elements are fundamental in almost every aspect of life and crucial for providing effective support…

When it comes to walking someone through experiences of shame, humiliation, or stories of contempt, it’s essential to focus on three key elements: attunement, containment, and rupture and repair. These elements are fundamental in almost every aspect of life and crucial for providing effective support…

Supporting someone through grief involves addressing some of their deepest, most challenging questions about God, suffering, and loss. While we might be inclined to reach for lofty theological concepts to provide clarity, it's important to remember that what people often seek is reassurance of God’s care and presence…

Walking with someone in the middle of their grief can feel incredibly daunting because everyone’s grief is unique. This uniqueness means there is no one-size-fits-all approach, and it's crucial to be sensitive and adaptable…

Many people may not experience significant loss until later in life, and when they do, they often feel unprepared to handle their own grief or to support others. By discussing grief before it becomes a pressing issue, you can help your community develop a compassionate and sensitive approach to supporting those who are grieving…

Learn from Pastor Benji Horning about identifying what grief looks like to each person and how to meet their unique needs…

Want to work with others on their own story? Cathy Loerzel, co-founder at the Allender Center, shares that we can only take someone as far as we’ve gone in our story. If we haven’t done the work to understand our grief, our shame, our fears, how can we help another? Learn how…

After listening, exploring underlying issues, and sharing in the struggle, the final word in our model is support. This step is crucial for guiding someone toward health and well-being, much like Jesus did when he encountered broken people, offering them both grace and direction…

In our model, the third word is share, which has two significant meanings. Firstly, we share in the struggle of the person we're talking to by meeting them in that space emotionally and physically, being present with them. Secondly, there are moments when it’s appropriate to share a part of our own story, offering insights or experiences that might be relevant to what they're going through…