How To Find Good Accountability

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Written By Austin Cavaliere

If you need help seeing Jesus in the middle of your struggle, or just feel like you are stuck, ready to move into growth and healing, connect with a Christian coach.

Excerpt: How To Find Good Accountability

Course: Freedom From Pornography

Speakers: Matthias Barker

Navigating the Struggle

We've discussed the importance of enjoying God's presence and building supportive routines for healing. But how do we bring others into this struggle? How do we share our vulnerability and find the right support?

Understanding Accountability

Perhaps you've tried accountability before, asking someone to hold you responsible. These experiences vary, ranging from ineffective, hands-off approaches to overly controlling, shame-inducing ones.

Defining Roles: Mentors, Therapists, and Supportive Friends

To navigate this effectively, we must define roles. Mentors/Therapists provide direct guidance, ideally with relevant experience. They help address root issues and offer mature counsel. Supportive Friends offer emotional support and prayer. They listen, inquire about your well-being, and help identify triggers.

Practical Steps: Sharing Vulnerability and Building Support

Initiate honest conversations, informing friends about your journey and their role. Clearly define their support, emphasizing emotional well-being and prayer. For complex marital situations, seek guidance from a mentor or therapist. When speaking to a spouse, open with relationship goals, take responsibility, and prioritize honesty.

Navigating Marital Challenges

If you're married, sharing your struggle can bring complex challenges. Your spouse may feel betrayed, and there may be disagreement about the severity of the situation. If you have not told your spouse, seek counsel from a mentor or therapist. Open with a dream for your relationship, and take responsibility for your actions.

Conclusion: Building a Network of Support for Lasting Freedom

Navigating pornography addiction requires a network of support. Mentors, therapists, and supportive friends play crucial roles in your journey. By sharing your vulnerability and building a strong support system, you can find lasting freedom and healing.

 

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  • 3) Connect with a Share The Struggle Coach for one-on-one support. Let’s face it, some of us have tried kicking this thing, and we’ve had no luck. It’s time to start looking toward forms of support that can help us see and feel the beautiful life God has in store for us.

 

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Part 1: Stories of Struggle

Session 1: What is the Struggle?

Session 2: The People

Part 2: The Roots of Dependency versus Design

Session 3: How Does This Dependency Begin?

Session 4: Biblical Roots

Part 3: Reconnecting and Reattaching

Session 5: Reconnecting With An Authentic God

Session 6: Working On Self

Session 7: Working With Others

Session 8: Healing With A Spouse

 

Share The Struggle Courses

Share the Struggle Courses are topical expert led video courses to help you understand life’s greatest struggles and provide you with tools for navigating them. Moreover, STS courses create a space for you to connect with others struggling with similar things, experience belonging, and encounter God’s nearness in a place of wilderness in your life (pain, confusion, healing journey). Want to start a group at your church? Reach out to us here to learn how.

 

What Share The Struggle Believes

Here at Share The Struggle we believe Jesus is present with us in the middle of our pain and mess, and it is in that place that we often experience and encounter Jesus most deeply.

We understand the unique challenges faced by Christians dealing with mental health. Our mission is to bridge the gap between faith and mental health support, providing a platform where individuals can find resources, coaching support and guidance, all tailored to their spiritual life and emotional needs.

We invite you to explore our resources, share your journey, and find the support you need to overcome the struggles you face.

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